Marital Bliss

Some infinities are bigger than other infinities.               
                               - the fault in our stars

Marriage is one such infinity that is second longest phase of our lives post childhood. Our parents bring us into this world and nurture us to achieve our goals. Then we select our careers and finally land a job. There comes a stage when we get to choose someone other than our parents with whom we would want to spend our lives. The question being, 'Who is the right one?'

When most of us start to think on these lines we have two options in mind: either marry someone you love or marry someone with whom you eventually might fall in love (attachment). While the choice seems to be interesting yet it is daunting. We the people who have done things on our own terms are now tongue tied as to which option to choose.

Yet if someone were to ask, 'How do we know he/she is THE ONE for us?' We have already seen many proposals and profiles but which one is the one destined for me. The task is strenuous and emotionally draining. When we finally come across the person we feel is best suited for us, there are some indirect signs that guide us to the altar.

When we're married both individuals crave for each others attention. They need time, space and support to grow and nurture their relationship. Yet there are times when those difficulties arise that only make it impossible to stick together. But then how do we resolve those issues? The main question is this.

The phases of marriage start with the honeymoon period, we love each other, are together most of the times, listen to what other has to say etc. Then when we are gradually getting to know one another better the honeymoon phase starts to vanish. And at last most of us hold on to the attachment we've build all these years. Can't we keep the initial phase of our marriage alive. Yes, we can but we all need to put in efforts from both the ends.

Marriage is a sacred bond that signifies togetherness for eternity. Both individuals are equally responsible for mending and spoiling the relationship. When we see disagreements and difficulties shouldn't we stand up and take the step to fill gap. Or should we just sit in our own places and let things go from bad to worse. And if we're really interested in repairing our relationship we need to sew those holes properly to make them airtight; falseness and artificiality just widen the hole and invites a bigger opening which is not repairable.

Marital happiness lies in our own hands. What is with us is precious, never let it go so easily. Fight for it but if the fight is effortless and worthless then you know the time has come to bid adieu. Building a happy married life takes decades. Enjoy your time together, add elements that keep the zing alive and create your own small infinity.